How are Project Robby Keepsake Sets Chosen?

When a Project Robby Keepsake Set goes out to a family who has requested it, it has been truly made, chosen, and packaged with love.

 

After a Project Robby  Keepsake Set has been requested, the request automatically gets added to our waiting list.Due to the amount of requests we receive each day, our waiting time from request to shipping is about 24-28+ weeks. There are days that we receive requests for more than 100 Project Robby Keepsake Sets. As of today (July 23, 2019) , we have over 2500 Keepsake Set forms waiting to be filled.

 

We have space on our request form for gestation, gender if known, and any special notes to aid us in choosing a Keepsake Set. Some of the things that we see in the special notes section has to do with colors or specific objects that the family associated with the baby. Many times though, they tell us that anything would be wonderful because they long to have something tangible to  hold onto.

 

I go through and personally read every single request that comes through. I read your name and your special notes. If you tell me about your baby, I read it. If you tell us your baby’s name, I say it out loud. There are many times that I cry as I read through some of the stories that come through because I personally know the heartbreak of loss.

 

My mom and I go through the hats, blankets, and angel wings that  our amazing volunteers send in. When picking out sets, we go through our sets to find the exact one that we think will be perfect for each recipient- keeping in mind what colors/objects/special notes or memories were written down in the special notes section.

Once we have chosen the perfect set and many times *sets* for the recipient, I sit down and write a note to the recipient of the Project Robby Keepsake Set. Each note I write is done with all of the love in my heart.

Once the note has been written, the set(s) get folded and wrapped, it gets placed into the mailing bag, and then it moves to the stamping process. The process from request to shipping takes time. 

I know that our 24-28+  week wait time might seem slightly excessive, but please know how much love goes into every single part of this process. 

Our volunteers are located all over the world, and we could not be more grateful to them and their dedication to Project Robby. They are all so generously giving of themselves, their time, their talents, their love, and their funds because they believe in the work that Project Robby is doing and they want to help heal hearts.  Our volunteers pour their heart and souls into the hats, blankets, and angel wings. I have so many women tell me that they pray over the items as they make them. Many of the women who make these beautiful items have either lost a baby, or have a close friend or family member who has lost a baby. You can look at the beautiful sets and see all of the love that these wonderful ladies have poured into them. Then, my mom and I pour all that we have into matching the perfect sets for the recipient.

To everyone who makes items for our Keepsake Sets: thank you! We know how much love,time, talent, and money goes into these projects, and we are truly thankful. 

To the women who are requesting sets, please know that there is so much  love in every single step of this process. We know that the wait time is long, but each and every Project Robby Keepsake is beautiful and unique in its own way. We do not require our volunteers to use specific patterns or even colors. If we were to have “standardized” sets, it would cut down on your wait time. However, we do not have our items “standardized” because we know that your baby was special and unique, and we want for your Keepsake Set to be representative of your beautiful, precious, loved baby.

Love,

Amanda ♥

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Corissa

Corissa’s Story

 

On April 16, 2015, we heard the words no parent wants to hear when having an ultrasound. We lost Ky Matthew at 14 weeks gestation. It was a complete shock to us as we had just listened to his heartbeat at home 36 hours previously and was nice and strong in the 160 BPMs. Thank you to Project Robby for having something that we can hold onto forever. Not only that but offering something to women where their child is recognized regardless of gestation and being understanding of the grieving process. A simple act gone such a long, long way. ❤️

 

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her:

It’s easy for society to forget that the baby in your womb was a baby if they don’t SEE it. This Keepsake Set reminds me of his size and that he truly was a sweet little boy that I carried, even if only for 14 weeks.

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: KayCee

KayCee’s Story

A year and a half ago we lost our baby. His due date was November 18th, which is right around the corner. We went in for our 10 week ultrasound at 9 weeks 4 days, to find our baby didn’t have a heart beat and was only measuring 5-6 weeks. I opted out of a d&c, and 2 weeks later lost our baby.. but not just our baby, my little girls sibling, the future we had planned already, the joy and happiness another baby brings.. I lost a piece of myself, and so did my husband.

 

 

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her

My Project Robby Keepsake Set means the world to me. It’s something tangible to prove my baby existed. My baby matters even if he gained his wings before we got to meet. This organization proves every life matters, no matter how small.

 

If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Angela

Angela’s Story:

Our son Owen was born asleep on 7-12-18 at 16 weeks gestation.

 

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her:

Since I did not choose to see my son after he was born, the keepsake set allows me to see just how tiny he was, and reminds me that there was so much love contained in such a small angel.

 

If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Deanna

Deanna’s Story:

In 2015 I found out I was pregnant I was excited yet scared because it was a 9 year wait from my first child. I was planning everything in my head for work, babysitting, godparents, moving, shopping etc.

At 4 weeks I schedule my 1st Dr. appointment at 6 weeks I arrive at my visit and there he/she was on the screen what looked like a little bean it was reality, it was love! As the Dr. is looking around measuring clicking pics he says I don’t see it Nancy do you (Nancy is the Drs assistant) she says no.

He looks around more and in my head I’m like he doesn’t see what I see the baby right there. He finishes up and says ok so there is no heart beat come back in a week it maybe too small to see! Nancy says alright my dear were gonna schedule your next appointment up front but if in the next few days if you see any spotting you may be having a miscarriage so come back in or go to the ER.

At this time I’m thinking a miscarriage? What? Not me why would i? I’m young, I’m healthy! The very next day the spotting came I head to the ER have my ultrasound and get confirmation there is no heart beat. My heart was broken I was mad, hurt, confused, scared and in disbelief.

I then have to schedule for my D & C. Have a few days of spotting and pain. Then there it was at 7 weeks my Angel went with the Lord. Before this I never knew much about having a miscarriage. I never knew these kind of things happened to us. I mean I heard about it but I was blind from it.

I am now a mother of an Angel that I think about daily! That I miss dearly! I feel like I missed out on him/her! A piece of me is missing! I will never forget! I love you baby! Until we meet in Heaven, for now watch over us and have fun with Jesus!

Love Mama.

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her:

Receiving the keepsake set meant everything to me! Its my go to when I’m hurting or thinking about my baby. I now have something with me that i can look at and feel at peace knowing we will meet soon!

 

If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Myra

Myra’s Story:

I was pregnant with twins, a boy and a girl. I lost my baby girl at 17 weeks. My little boy is now 7 months old.

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her: 

It gave my husband and I something tangible to have for my baby girl. Something to show her brother, my son that he had a sister and is now a twinless twin.

 

If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Tanya

We experienced infertility and early pregnancy loss while trying to grow our family. For the past 8 years, October has been a hard month for me. If our first pregnancy had been viable, we would have a child turning 8 years old this month and had our last pregnancy been viable, we would also have a 3 year old this month. Fittingly, October is also pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. Pregnancy loss is not something I ever gave much thought to before getting pregnant in 2010, but now it’s something that’s never far from my mind.

Four years into our infertility journey, we were blessed with a little boy. He is now almost 6 years old and asking many tough questions. A few years ago, in preparation for these hard questions, I wrote a couple of books for him. One book details how he came to be part of our family. The other book talks about his 6 heavenly siblings, which we lovingly refer to as our glory babies (a phrase we borrowed from a song by Watermark).

Several months ago, our son asked me to read the book I wrote for him to tell him about his glory baby siblings. When I was finished reading, he turned to me and asked me their names. I had to tell him they didn’t have names. He asked why, and I didn’t have a good answer for him. I asked him if we could pray and ask Jesus to name them but he wasn’t ok with this option. He told me we needed to give them names and he was quite adamant. I don’t remember how the conversation ended but it definitely stuck with me.

I talked to my husband and others about this conversation. Everyone agreed there wasn’t any reason not to give our babies names, especially since our son was asking and seemed to be upset that that they were nameless. We decided that if he brought it up again, we would work together to honor his request.

Later that week, he came to us one morning when he woke up and told us that we needed to name our babies. He went on to say that there were 3 boy babies and 3 girl babies and one of the boy babies was to be named Simon. Naming the babies had obviously been on his mind.

We told him that we would work together as a family to give our babies names. At this time, we were busy selling our house and moving; so the subject was dropped temporarily. He would occasionally mention it in passing but we didn’t have time or energy to focus on it. About a month ago, after we had settled from our move, he brought me the Glory Babies book I had written and asked me to read it. Again, he asked if they had been named yet. At that moment, they did not have names but we worked together and a few days later they had all been given names.

They had names but now what? My friend, Amanda, has a non-profit organization called Project Robby. In memory of her son Robby, who was born too soon, she sends blankets, hats, and angel wings to parents who leave the hospital with empty arms, no matter the gestation. She has many people who donate blankets, hats, and angel wings to her organization but there are many other expenses (shipping being the biggest). Every year, she does a couple of fundraisers to help cover the costs of operating the non-profit. The fall fundraiser is a virtual walk. She has t-shirts made for people to purchase, and the proceeds go to Project Robby. On the back of the shirts, parents who have lost babies can have their babies’ names listed. My friend put out the request for names for the 2018 shirts right around the time we were talking about naming our babies and we decided to add their names to the list.

We got our shirts last month and our son has been so proud to wear his shirt. He’s told several people that his babies’ names are on the shirt. I love that he has something tangible to wear in memory of his siblings. It is amazing how much peace this small act has brought our family. And even more amazing that it was initiated by a 5 year old. Pregnancy loss doesn’t just affect the woman or the couple, it affects the entire family. I may never have thought to name our glory babies, but I’m thankful our son encouraged us to do so. Now when we talk about his siblings, we can refer to them by name.

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❤️Micah John❤

🧡Simon Hans🧡

💛Elizabeth Hope💛

💚Josiah Mark💚

💙Lydia Faith💙

💜Selah Joy💜

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Tina

Tina’s Story:

My son Cody was still born. We lost him October 2, 2017. Everything about my pregnancy was considered “normal”. I have never felt that kind of sadness before. As a new mom you plan for all of the new adventures, dream about what his first word is going to be, and who is he going to look like more. Though it is been a year since we lost him, he will always be my son, and I will love him with all my heart until I see him again🦋💙

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her: 

This Keepsake set really allowed us to be more open about our son to the world. Sometimes it’s hard to talk about losing a child. However you never know how it can heal, help, or open doors for other people if you are brave enough to talk about infancy loss. This set means the world to us and is lit up on our mantle.

If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Angelica

Angelica’s Story: 

In June 2014 we found out we were pregnant. We had been trying for almost a year. When I was pregnant with my first child, I knew she was a girl almost from the day I found out I was carrying her. With this one, even though I wanted another girl so much, I KNEW he was a boy right away. On July 2nd, 2014 we lost Erich at 4 weeks 6 days. It was one of the most painful things my heart ever had to go through. We haven’t been able to get pregnant again since, which hurts just as much.

 

 

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her:

As I hadn’t even had an ultrasound yet, I had nothing tangible to hold after my loss. The day I received my keepsake set I cried. It was the most beautiful thing I had ever been given. Now I had something to hold!

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If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here

I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy: Sarah

Sarah’s story:

I found out about my loss July 17, 2018. I got those words no one ever wants to hear…         “I’m sorry there’s no heartbeat.”

The following week I found out I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks gestation. I was devastated. I had to go in for a D&C. Through it all, even though no one was mean about, no one offered me anything to help with my grief. I received no ultrasound pictures, nothing. It was like everyone expected me to just forget about my baby.

What her Project Robby Keepsake Set means to her:

When I found Project Robby it brought me to tears. This meant I could have something to remember my baby by. When I received my package in the mail it truly meant the world to me. It meant the world that someone took the time to help a stranger with their grief when everyone else had expected to just pushed aside.

 

If you or someone you know would like more information on receiving a Project Robby Keepsake Set click here

If you have received a Keepsake or Bereavement Set and would like to be featured in our “I Didn’t Just Lose a Pregnancy” Series click here